Quite often I am torn on the
question is it okay to break up and get back with your significant other? When
you break up, one always thinks of it as final but maybe down the line, they want
to get back together. But if it’s break up after break up, is that healthy for
a relationship or even the person?
Now of course if a couple is
breaking up every week, every other week, or every month then yeah it may be
time to just let that go. But what if someone in the relationship just has a
problem with communication? So every time they get into an argument, it’s down
break up road, and then after a week they realize that it was dumb so they get
back together? What if someone is scared to love or has commitment issues so
they break up because they’re scared but get back together because they are
made for each other, is that ok? Maybe they’re just young and dumb and that’s
what young and dumb people do (right?).
If one sits and make a
pro/con list of their relationship and has more pros than cons, why shouldn't they get back together. If they think its true love shouldn't that be enough?
If they have more cons of their list, than breaking up is definitely the right
decision. If there has been mental or physical abuse in the relationship and
that’s why the person keeps making up to break up than that’s a different story
(RUN and don’t look back). Taking a break from a relationship is actually
helpful I feel. I know couples that have taken plenty of breaks during their
relationship and their married now. Not saying that in their marriage they can
take a break but at the end of the day marriage and dating/being in a
relationship is two different things. So it obviously works for some couples.
Just like arguing is healthy for a relationship, I feel breaking up is healthy
too (if it happens). It makes them miss you, realize your value, and some people
just need some ‘me’ time. If they don’t miss you then leave that alone, stay
single.
I feel more than ever, we
are embarrassed that we break up one day and get back together the next. We
tell our friends and family me and boo thang broke up, that ‘it’s final, I wish
him/her the best, nothing but happiness and love.’ Like always their response
is “yall broke up again/yall getting back together again?!” But after both
parties have evaluated what happened in the relationship, taken time for their
selves (at least a month), and when they come in contact that spark ignites in
our little heart. Then the dilemma becomes; you really want to get back
together because it feels AMAZING being with that person (talking on the phone,
etc.) but don’t want to feel like your week or look stupid to other people.
Honestly at the end of the
day WHO GIVES A CRAP WHAT THEY THINK.
It’s your relationship, your life, and you have to do what makes you happy because
you never know when it is your last day. We are not here to impress our loved ones
or make it seem like we are perfect, we all have problems, and we all our
trying to work them out. Don’t judge me because me and my bae are not perfect,
it’s life. Couples argue, some break up, and some get back together. If you’re
one of those people, then own up to it, fix it (if it can be fixed), and live Blissfully.
So, if you and your
significant other break up, it’s not the end of the world. Take your time and
get yourself together. Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed if you want to get back
with your boo thang. I think it is healthy to have a break up once in a while,
long as when you get back together the situation is fixed and it doesn't happen
again. Like life, a relationship is about progression. If you have any second
thoughts, still angry, just want to be together so you have someone to hold at
night, or because you feel you won’t find someone else, stay single because God has someone perfect for you.
Thank you for reading today
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